5 Ideas for a Romantic Anniversary!

Your anniversary as sweethearts is fast approaching again! Now you worry about how to make it special and different from the previous anniversaries. You don't want to do the same celebration year after year or month after month. You need to be creative and romantic at the same time.

Here are some ideas to celebrate your anniversary.

1. Gifts. Send  (For Women)Send your partner a sexy lingerie with a message like "ready for battle" or the like prior to your anniversary day. He'll get the message without a doubt. (For men) send your partner a sexy brief or boxer shorts, with her sexy photo printed on it. This may sound corny, but you'll be surprise how this simple gesture can heat things up in bed of course.. 

2. Propose to your partner again! Reiterate the love you have for each other. But do so in a romantic way.  Book a romantic dinner in a restaurant. If you are bold enough, propose in front of the people in the restaurant. OR have a banner saying "will you marry me again" outside the restaurant.  Let children or senior citizens carry the banner.

3. Just married! Fetch your partner from work. Put "Just married" sign on the part of the car where it's visible to where your partner would be standing when you fetch her. Don't forget the flowers and chocolates as you approach her.  Now, drive her to heaven - I mean to the most romantic place in town.

4. Watch a movie. Compile your collection of videos like  your first date video, your wedding video, the video of her giving birth, picnic videos, family outing videos etc. Label the video with some fun title. Think well! Don't give her the idea that the video will be all about you as a couple or as a family.

5.  Forget the anniversary! Pretend as if you forget about your anniversary. Engage into a petty fight with your partner if you must. But prepare your anniversary surprise.  Fill the house with flowers. Spread rose petals from your front door to your room. Cover your bed with rose petals.  On the anniversary day, fetch your partner and give her a bouquet of flowers but don't look super happy.  Then show her the surprise as you reach home.. She'll be very surprise. Don't forget to say your proposal again "Will you marry me again for the next 100 years" or something like that.. (and buy her a new ring if you can afford).

That's it.. I hope you enjoy reading this.. Happy Valentine' Day everyone!

10 Steps to the Perfect Kiss!

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Signs That A Guy is Flirting!

 Before we discuss some of the common signs of flirting exhibited by men, let us first define what flirting means. According to the dictionary, flirting means:

To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.

To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.

To move abruptly or jerkily.

How do men flirt?  Men often flirt by showing their masculinity. They tend to put emphasis on exuding their being "masculine, their being "macho", as they think it attracts the female species. So how do men flirt? What are the common signs that a guy is flirting with you? Take the following signs that  a guy, is flirting  with you, although the list does not hold true all the time.

Common Signs That a Guy is Flirting with you:

He...

* Arches his back.
* Sways his pelvis.
* Laughs loudly.
* Tugs his tie.
* Clasps back of his neck.
* Squares his shoulders.
* Puffs his chest.
* Stiffens his stance.
* Teases you in a friendly manner, such as by calling you names.

* Winks at you from a distance.
* Always compliments you.
* Smiles suggestively.
* Engages in direct eye contact.
* Casually touches you.

In the modern world with the advent of cellphones and social networking sites, he:

* texts/calls you often
* sends you suggestive messages
* always gets in touch with you on social networking sites by commenting on your every posts, every photo, every video (take this sign with extra caution as this is not conclusive, but you will know if a guy is flirting with you.)

Trust your intuition. Trust that woman instinct of yours which will give you that feel that a guy is flirting with you. A woman will always feel it. But remember to never jump into conclusions when it comes to matters like this. If you feel like a guy might like you, don't spread the word publicly. Keep it to yourself. Wait till he proposes or tells you upfront.  Otherwise you might end up embarrassed of your premature judgment and arrogance! :)

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50 Things Girls Wished Guys Knew

This is worth sharing. I don't know who made this article. But I agree to most of the things that are listed here.  If you like this article, feel free to share it to your friends via email or through twitter or facebook.  Also, don't forget to like my page on Facebook, I will appreciate it so much! :)

50 Things Girls Wished Guys Knew:

1. Don't freakin' tell us when you think other girls are hot.

2. Whenever possible during our favorite show, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

3. If you don't act like soap-opera guys, then don't excpect us to dress like Victoria Secret models.

4. Mark anniversaries on a calendar. That's a must.

5. There is NO such thing as TOO MUCH spooning.

6. We think about you all the time. And I mean ALL the time.

7. This is how we see it... you don't call = you don't care.

8. Which also means that if we don't call, take the hint.

9. We like you to be a little jealous, but overly-possessive is not necessary.

10. Being able to make us laugh is so much more important than how much you can bench press.

11. Return the favor...we massage, you massage...

12. Show us your romantic side every once in a while, we love it.

13. We're allowed to be late...you are not.

14. Eye contact is key.

15. Don't take longer to get ready than we do.

16. Laugh at our jokes.

17. Three words...honesty, honesty, honesty.

18. Girls can be groupies, guy groupies are stalkers...

19. Tell us we're gorgeous or beautiful instead of hot or sexy.

20. Do not start with us...you will not win.

21. Would you like it if a guy treated your sister that way? ...Didn't think so.

22. If you ask nicely, we usually answer the same way.

23. We will never have enough clothes or shoes.

24. We have an excuse to act bitchy, at least once a month.

25. Open the door for us no matter where we are... even at our house or getting into a car.

26. We LOVE surprises!

27. We like to be kissed softly, not with an iron tongue.

28. Pay attention to the little things we do, because they mean the most.

29. Boxers and maybe boxer briefs but.....NEVER whitey-tighties!

30. Clean your room before we come over.

31. Always brush your teeth before you see us...a clean mouth and white teeth are a necessity

32. Love u, love you, luv u and love ya are totally different than I Love You.

33. Even though you are sometimes insensitive and hurt us, we still love you with everything we have.

34. Don't ask us to do things that we aren't ready for.

35. Don't act jerkish and ignore us around your friends.

36. Sometimes NO! really means NO!

37. "Wife Beaters" are not always an adequate form of fashion.

38. Do not bring up an ex-girlfriend, unless we ask.

39. Sensitive guys are great, but crying more than we do in a movie just isn't right.

40. Don't let ex-girlfriends cause drama, relationships are stressful enough.

41. It takes a special kind of stupid to forget birthdays.

42. Guys who are good cuddlers = guys who know how to satisfy a woman.

43. "Fat Chicks" have feelings too.

44. Silent treatment, shoulder shrugs, tears, yelling and nasty looks from us all add up to... YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG!

45. The excuse "I can't dance" is unacceptable...we'll appreciate the simple fact that you're trying.

46. Just because a girl doesn't pick up on the first ring, doesn't mean she's not waiting by the phone.

47. You don't have to spend a lot if it means a lot.

48. Don't say you love me if you don't mean it.

49. Do not lie to us...we will catch you, trust me.

50. When the girls get together, we talk about everything...meaning my best friend knows everything about you!

40 Things Men Hate About Women!

Ouch!   The 40 Things Men hate about the women! 40 is a long list but it can still go longer. lol.. My favorites among the list are numbers 3, 6, 9, 17, 21, 30, 35.  You can also add to the list if you want. The list by the way is one I got from unknown source. I have the printed copy and decided to blog about it because I feel most of these are true.

40 Things Men Hate About Women:

1. Leaving the toilet seat down
2. Phoning or texting you every 10 minutes
3. Never being ready on time when going out
4. Spending too much time in the bathroom
5. Being a bad cook
6. On the phone to girl friends for hours after just having spent the day with them.
7. Not letting you spend time with their mates
8. Only wanting to watch Soaps and Reality shows on TV
9. On a permanent diet and yet they’re still fat
10. Orange faces and white necks
11. Moaning when you look innocently at other women when you are out together. You looked at a tree too but she didn’t complain about that!
12. Keeping tabs on how much you have had to drink when you are out together.
13. Nagging about you not helping around the house.
14. Complaining that you didn’t do a good enough job when you tried to help out around the house
15. Always making you take out the rubbish and do all the dirty jobs.
16. Leaving female items on your bedside cabinet.
17. Having a headache when you indicate you want to have sex.
18. She never appreciates the gifts you get her. It’s always the wrong size.
19. Telling you what to buy her rather than letting you make it a surprise.
20. Taking your hard earned cash and spending it on make-up
21. Moaning about how fast you drive.
22. Asking when you are coming home just so they can know how long before they can nag you in person.
23. Expecting you to notice every change she makes to herself even though it was a while since you saw her naked and that’s really the only look you’re interested in.
24. She is starting to look more and more like her mum.
25. Wearing multiple layers to bed.
26. PMT.
27. She spends her day off lounging around the house in an old tea-stained dressing gown.
28. She reads her mates  texts while you’re having s*x.
29. Snooping through your wallet, phone and Facebook account. They don’t stop till they find something incriminating,,,however minor.
30. Spending too much time on Facebook.
31. Turning on the tears when they’re in the wrong to get you to forgive them.
32. Badmouthing you to all their mates when you have a row.
33. Wanting to cuddle after s*x.
34. Wanting you to let her squeeze your blackheads.
35. Saying she’ll be ready in 5 mins and then being ready in 50.
36. Expecting you to pay when you go out.
37. Choosing your clothes and telling you what to wear.
38. Tidying your private things (pics of old girlfriends) into the bin without telling you.
39. Lipsticks marks on your mug.
40. Trying to get you to wear her undies when having s*x. (lol)
41. Not letting you wear her undies when having s*x.

99 Facts About Men that Women Should Know!

 I stumbled upon this list of 99 facts about men that women should know/ 99 facts about guys that girls should know. I don't think all of these apply to all men. But perhaps to majority of men. It's a good read though and worth sharing to all the female friends I know and even to male friends so they could react to these things about them.

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99 Facts about Men that Women should know:

1. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. they prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate other flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
5. Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them. …….dont think so
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking! but do not generalise
13. Guys cry!!!
14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what?!..uh…never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands……yeh rite – Whatever.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow”. So true.
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice…….very true.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts. ……..sumtimes.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!……very true.
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed P**** with their girlfriends…..sumtimes depends wen they want sumat.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me”……sumtimes.
59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him….very important.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and football, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake. ….they love u regardless.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!……true but only wen the guys are ready 2be settled down.
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement “Get lost” too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed by you or he’s criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact. ……sumtimes.
99. Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships.

11 Things I Hate About Men!

Just my serious two cents.. Instead of the usual 10 list, I'll add an extra 1. There are still other things I don't understand about men but for now I can only share 11..

1. They won't ask for directions even though it's so obvious they're lost.
2. They like to watch porn and naked girls on magazine. (glad not naked men ..lol..)
3. They won't help with household chores.
4. They think they are not vain.
5. They complain about our shopping, high heel shoes and make ups, when we just want to look beautiful for them.
6. They ask for our number but won't call or text.
7. They invite us for a snack or dinner but can't spell out it's a date.
8. They tell us we have beautiful eyes, wonderful body, but can't tell straight they like us.
9. They forget birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions but remember very well basketball and NFL scores and players.
10. They often times joke their feelings towards us.
    
11. They hate to talk about their real feelings and want to keep us guessing.

The World Without Men

Men are complex beings in the kingdom animalia. They are hard to understand, at times stubborn, yet at times submissive. They say men are from mars and women are from venus. Too much for a poetic license... we’re no alien. We’re from earth, where women can’t live without men, and men can’t live without women.

But, woman, imagine the world without men!
Allow my ingenious psyche to set off my tedious imaginations. Bear in mind this is one of the most difficult thing to do in a woman’s existence, for the time being I will be removing all the “HEs” in my life. Imagine how lonely would that be! I’m making this short for it’s like committing suicide!
Okay, here I go. . I’m gathering my full prowess to be able to start my journey to a life without men inside my aching skull and griping heart (i need some pain relievers.. nyah!)..

Without men, there’ll be less war in the world.
Without men, there’ll be fewer crimes.
Without men, our prison cells will be less crowded.
Without men, there’ll be less of those cars, and moving things that men drive that hurt the environment..
Without men, there’ll be less road accidents.
Without men, the car industry, video games industry will die.
Without men, the dictionary will be restructured, dropping the words “he, him, his”, etc.
Without men, Playboy and the porn industry are dead.
Without men, the beauty and fashion industry will collapse.
Without men, what’s the purpose of sexy thongs and lingerie.. victoria’s secret is doomed!
Without men, you’d see ugly women everywhere.
Without men, you’d see lots of fat women everywhere too.
Without men, there’ll be no fathers, brothers, boyfriends and husbands.
Without men, what’s going to happen to sexual congress?
Without men, all women would be lesbians.
Without men, there’ll be no gays.
Without men, what’s going to happen to human proliferation?

... such a forlorn world would that be!
... when this happens, (I dread), am sure to raise my cry to the judges of the world.. a protest with relevance far more than any problem this world has faced.. A world without men.. there is no condition more terrible than this..Let this not happen, lest it be the end of the world, lest it be hell.

The God in the heavens has created such complex creation called “men” to live side by side with “women”. Since time immemorial, men and women have been co existing. Men and women living under one sun is equilibrium. We may sometimes or oftentimes hate the male species, but women we all love our men. We don’t want to live a life without them, don’t we? So to all men, please don’t leave. . .Stay!

Note: Please pardon any grammatical, or typo errors. I write as I think and feel, with less room for proof reading or editing.

This article may not be copied, or published or used in any way without my express permission.

Count my Boyfriends and Girlfriends!

1,2,3,4… Cut it out! You prefer whatever floats your boat?!
You make me wanna puke!

… I’d like to rant and hit some nerves!

How can you love more than one person at the same time? Here’s the scenario in a real love story. One man loves two women at the same time. Some men are guilty of having two or more girlfriends all at the same time.. It’s really stupid.. But why? I just couldn’t get it. It’s definitely a selfish act. You tell somebody up-front all those beautiful “Shakespeare-like“ words to obtain their sweetest “yes” and then you turn to another woman and tell her the same words. Ain’t you just playing with other people’s emotions? It’s never fair to the women involved.

Both sexes or should I say genders are guilty of this. But I think men may be more prone to doing this than women. Of course you can argue with me on that especially if you are a man. “Defend the gang!”…. oh well, I may be wrong so take it as more of a guess and not a conclusion nor a judgment. I don’t want to be described as stereotyping.

But why do men do this? Why, I can’t think of any logical reasons? Let’s see, does it advance your manhood? Does it make more “Hunk-y”? Does it make you the utmost exemplar of MR. ROMEO courting his JULIET with the greatest love in the world to give. Heck!! You are so freakiiiin’ nuts! That’s not love. I call it cheating in the guise of love.

As for the women who are equally guilty of this, let me think of your reasons.. Oh I get it, you want to be called “Miss Hottie”so as to segregate you from “The Not So hottie”, the girl who who’s been kissed by every boy in town. How wretched! And you like being talked like that? Hey, you are not Paris Hilton! (grin..)

No one can serve two masters at the same time.. Duh! And it ain’t justified as multi tasking…lol. I won’t bite that. Faet! (I love using this expression!) You can’t love two persons at the same time. It’s one of the biggest lie you can tell yourself..the biggest deception/self deceit you play on yourself.

So got more than one boyfriend or more than one girlfriend??! Shut up!!!

Love Moves: Boy or Girl?

I think either boy or girl can do the first move. Traditionally and as part of our customary ways, it has always been the boys who do the first move. Boys have the advantage of wooing the girls they like. They have the license to verbalize and flatter the hearts of their adored, loved and highly thought of lass. While the girls, since time immemorial have zipped their lips and mastered the art of waiting for the lads of their dreams to notice them. And if go unnoticed, the girls forever hold their peace. What a pity!!!

I am a girl too and I find it unfair to give this engaging opportunity to express love to the opposite sex only. We are all on equal grounds, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Isn’t it? Come on. There’s nothing wrong with the old ways but there’s nothing wrong with change either. If boys can woo, girls can woo too. If boys can do, girls can do too. What’s the difference, the curve in a girls’ body and the muscles in the boys’. Does physique really matter? The idea of expressing love first on the girl’s part does not lower her stature nor makes her cheap. Rather it is a paradigm of being true to oneself and an exemplar of a mortal’s quest for love.

Attempt to define Love

Much has been said about love.
But what is love?
Can you define this definiendum?

Naahh! Love is one of those terminologies in the dictionary that while defined is not fully described. Any attempt to define love using various terms are always futile, as this abstract thing, so intangible, so strange yet so common, defies definition. But the irony is that everyone understands a portion of this thing called “love”.

Love maybe likened to a disease with an existence extending beyond the reach of memory. It is an epidemic affecting countless lives of different ages, races and generations. There is no vaccine to protect the immune system from the love pathogen and there is no cure either for while it is a disease, it is the kind that the patients may willingly die for. Love is a recurrent infection in man’s mortal existence with all its torments that he so cheerfully embraces even till his demise.

Love can likewise be likened to an addiction. It strikes, it ends then infects again, only to die once more, and then the cycle goes on again. But who would want to get rid of this addiction when it brings people together, creates relationships, builds families and creates peace and tranquility? Who would blame such an addiction, when it is by it that you and I were born, when it is by it that humanity achieves the continuation of the species? The more you love, the more you lose a part of you; yet it doesn’t make you less of who you are, you just end up being complete. Should we rid of this addiction therefore?

Love may be expressed in words and actions, but it is in the latter that is best measured. But even in silence the powerful scream of love can be heard. Love is so ordinary yet so strange, so simple yet so vast. No one can give a full satisfying definition of love. Not even the greatest of all poets and philosophers accurately describe Love. But in our daily existence we see it, we feel it, we share it and we live with it.

In my attempt to define love I always do not succeed. While most of the time I always have one word to define it- You ( The People I love). I too cannot perfectly define love. But my heart can. Your heart can..:)

Defining love maybe humanity’s longest craving, but if I were to define love with one word, for me Love is "Great", yet if love be madness, then I must be crazy, and I don’t care! I’ll be the happiest craziest person on earth! :)

(Ga emote lang kay hapit na Valentines day!)

The X-Perience

Losing one’s virginity for the liberated, unconventional and open-minded individuals is never an issue at all. But for those who belong to the traditional, old fashioned, conservative, typical Filipino “maria clara”, the “probinsyana” and the pious, virginity is a BIG THING. (you might ask, hey miss blogger what’s your “V” status? If you dare! LOL! … I’ll just pm my answer.. hehheheh)

Well, looking on the Biblical side, virginity is a really sacred thing. It is not something to be tossed away anytime one pleases. Just as when sex outside of marriage is a no no. To engage into sex and lose one’s virginity without the benefit of holy matrimony is an issue each and every one of us must personally face and decide. Whether the driving force behind the idea of doing it is love or just lust of the flesh, the principles that we have and the belief that is rooted in us will steer us to whatever decision. I don’t mean to offend those who see no wrong with having sex and losing one’s virginity outside of marriage. As I said and am reiterating it again, it’s a personal choice.

I just wonder why having sex at the earliest, outside of marriage, is like a race for men, and eventually being dubbed as the “X-perienced”, the “NOT ANYMORE VIRGIN”, is the trophy. Losing one’s virginity appears to be the indicator of manhood. No hard censure, no eyebrows’ raised and no gossips and tittle-tattle. In short, it’s accepted. No license needed. It’s just justified. But when it is the women who get exposed of having lost their virginity outside the halls of marriage, it’s gonna be the bread and butter of every conversation, gossips, teasing, mockery, criticisms, harsh judgments. Women get tongued with censure. It’s like a disastrous, perfidious wrong.

Is this another discrimination against women that has not yet been totally addressed and exterminated? Hey, two different genders, commit the same mistake if it be so, yet each undergo different litigations and are adjudged differently? The same crime, the same constitutive elements, yet different sentence? Come on, this is horrible! Where’s the point? For those who are fond of judging books by its cover, come on Mr. Justice, be fair and square!

Some women who get snared in this thorny situation hope for a rewind button where they could just undo things after reaching the 7th heaven with a push of the button. But there ain’t no rewind button, only the jury of condemnatory eyes. Yes, at the end of the day, its guilt, anguish and the familiar regrets. Just like the famous line “Curiosity killed the cat”, curiosity can strip you of your virginity.

Anyways, the agony of harsh censure and reproach doesn’t end instantly. It doesn’t subside for a day or two, over a week, even years- like a bottomless pit, an infinite trench. While the X-perience is in the past and these scorned women try to move on with their lives and prowl for their MR. RIGHT and the much awaited “I do” vows, when walking down the aisle is just a stone’s throw away, this virginity issue will again pop up, resurface, like a dead now resurrected. It’s gonna stalk its victims by tail. What a sad plight for women!

Note: I wrote this article on my friendster blog and I just reposted this. ..